This woman has told my father numerous lies, and I am very troubled that she may be stealing money from him. Any thoughts or advice?
WORRIED IN OREGON
A. I agree that any time a romance takes place at top speed and then quickly becomes the cause of family estrangement is cause for worry.
So-called “romance scams” are on the rise, and the elderly are vulnerable. One might assume that an elderly woman might not perpetrate a romance scam, and yet — why not? You might investigate this woman’s background.
You don’t mention your father’s health, and at this point you might not be aware of any health concerns because you have not had access to him, but he might be experiencing cognitive decline or other health problems that render him more vulnerable to her control.
In your state (Oregon) you can call to report your concerns about an adult being isolated or abused: 855-503-SAFE (7233). This is a statewide hot line to report abuse or neglect and the call goes to the Department of Human Services.
You could also contact your local Area Agency on Aging (AAA) to speak with a case worker to see if they can conduct a wellness check at your father’s home.
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